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Women’s Divorce Support Group in Seattle, Washington
Find community in a women's divorce support group.
A Supportive space to start rediscovering who you are now.
Divorce happens all the time, but no one believes it will actually happen to them. So when it does, you feel completely unprepared. Suddenly your life looks completely different from how you envisioned it. One day your future seemed clear, and seemingly overnight it has vanished into a fog.
At first, the shock numbs the pain. You just go into survival mode, tackling logistical needs you forgot you even had — things like a new toothbrush or laundry basket that you took for granted before.
Then the physical act of separating your belongings from your ex makes it feel very real.
This is actually happening.
You're hitting restart on your life.
You have supportive friends who listen and spend time with you. But eventually they go home to their families, and you go home alone.
For the first time in years, no one is beside you when you go to bed or wake up. The loneliness quickly sets in.
During work you can distract yourself, but returning to an empty home every evening reminds you of how alone you feel. By Friday, you actually dread going home because you know you'll be by yourself all weekend.
You’re looking for a divorce support group — a community you can begin to heal in.
More information about the women’s divorce support group.
You’re looking for a support group because…
Loneliness and isolation after losing the daily companionship of your spouse.
Thoughts come up like, “What is my life going to look like in the future, after all this change? What do I really want? Who am I?”
Many of your friends or family members simply don’t understand what you’re feeling. They try to, but their experiences in their marriages or divorces were just… different.
You’re craving a sense of community and, honestly, sisterhood: you want to be in a small group of women who have stood in your shoes.
Here’s what we’ll do together
Find support in an online women's divorce support group. Begin the work of healing and growing.
Even though you initiated the divorce, the adjustment to a new life can make you feel like the ground is shifting under your feet.
Connecting with other women going through a similar experience will give you a safe place to express and process complicated emotions, such as: grief, anger, sadness, regret, and stress.
You may feel like a completely different person post-divorce, as if you not only started a new chapter, but an entirely new book. You may not be able to relate to who you were during your marriage. That’s normal.
Finding your identity outside of being married or divorced is one of the first steps in rebuilding your self-esteem and self-trust.
You’ll start to reflect on your past patterns so that you can make different choices moving forward and start trusting yourself again.
The sense of community this group provides will encourage you as you begin to grow and heal.
You’ll learn how to set limits with others (your ex-spouse, your friends, yourself) and prioritize yourself — maybe for the first time in years. During this time, you’ll develop the confidence and skills to assertively say no when needed and put your well-being first so that your healing is prioritized.
You’ll also explore neglected hobbies and discover new passions and interests: whether that’s volunteering, physical activity, traveling, or things done at home like cooking or painting. You’ll (re)discover the joy, excitement, and fulfillment of spending time with yourself.
Ultimately, this group will inspire hope about your future. You will start to envision the possibility of feeling like yourself again.
By participating in The women’s divorce support group, you'll start to feel optimistic about getting to the other side of divorce as a wiser, stronger, and more empowered woman.
Ending the marriage may have been the healthiest decision.
…but that doesn’t mean the healing journey is easy.
The pain and emotional toll of divorce is very real.
This 8-week online group for women provides the support to process these feelings and begin the next chapter of your life.
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
You wake up each morning with a sense of freedom, purpose and peace: YOU get to decide what to do with your free time, your finances, and the big decisions in your future — based on what’s important to you.
You radiate joy, creativity, and a sense of adventure: You take up new hobbies like painting, hiking, or yoga without questioning if you’ll look like a fool. Your friends want to plan a girls trip to Puerto Vallarta? You’re in.
You enjoy a sense of financial independence and career empowerment: You are prioritizing your job performance and enjoying the accolades from your impressed boss, all while making your bank account look like a cell phone number (queen!).
You have released regrets from the past: You’ve banished the self-critical thoughts about what you “should” have done differently in your marriage, and forgiven yourself for your (human) mistakes.
What is it like to participate in this group?
This group is not held throughout the year, but rather in cohorts. The next group cohort will start in December 2024 and end in January 2025 (8 weeks total).
There is a 6 person maximum to allow for a more private feel.
I will have topics and information to cover during each session so that you are walking away from the 8-week experience with new information, skills, and insights about your behavior and your future.
That being said, there will also be time for participants to discuss their own current experience with where they are in the divorce process so that they can get support from one another.
This group is not strictly a class, nor is it strictly a support group — it is a blend of the two. It’s a place where you will learn something new about yourself while receiving compassion and support from other women.
This group is not religious-based, though women of any/all religious backgrounds are welcome to attend.
Who participates in this group?
Women join this group at all life stages — in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. Participants may be co-parenting toddlers or young children with their ex-spouse, or they may have grown children who are already out of the house. They may have been married to a man, a woman, or a nonbinary partner (women of all sexual orientations are encouraged and welcome to join).
This means you may have had vastly different life experiences than some of the rest of the women in your group.
Despite the possible differences, many of the same emotional themes still apply to everyone:
Grief and loss
Regret, guilt, and self-blame
Strong emotions like anxiety, sadness, or anger
Uncertainty about the future
And, the benefits of joining a support group are still relevant to everyone:
Peer support and sharing experiences so that you feel less lonely and isolated.
“Altruism”, or a sense of supporting and encouraging someone else — research shows this is the #1 reason why group therapy is so effective! It’s because it takes your focus off of your pain and onto showing compassion to someone else. This boosts self esteem, encourages perspective-taking, and provides a sense of purpose and meaning.
Accountability and motivation to set and meet goals such as: financial recovery after divorce, re-joining the work force, dating, etc.
The most important part about joining a support group is not that the other members are carbon copies of you — it’s that you have the opportunity to share about your experiences, give and receive support, and start to reflect on your divorce and how you want to move forward.
This group is a good fit if…
You want to surround yourself with a group of women who understand the grief and disappointment of divorce
You are self-reflective and open to new ideas
You are a woman who is either separated and actively going through the divorce process, or you are already legally divorced
This group isn’t a good fit if…
You’re looking to just vent and complain about your ex without focusing on yourself
Your relationship structure is changing but you are not separating or divorcing (ie: you are living separately, perhaps opening the marriage, but still involved as romantic partners)
You aren’t sure yet if you want to divorce and you are still in the process of deciding (please look into Discernment Counseling for this)
You are going through a breakup, but you were not married
How To sign up for the group
How do I sign up?
Due to the volume of inquiries, the first group session fee ($75) is required in advance to hold your spot as a deposit. It will be applied to your first group session, so you won’t pay anything during the first week.
The fees for weeks 2-8 will be billed at the time of service, for a total of $600 for the 8 weeks.
Once I get an email confirmation from you that you are ready to sign up, I will email you a link to digitally sign your new client forms (which includes a credit card form). Once those have been signed, you will be charged the deposit and officially on the roster. Wahoo!
There are only 5 spots available in each group, so please don’t wait!
The next group starts on Sunday, December 1, 2024 and goes until Sunday, January 19.
The group is held from 9-10:15am Pacific Time.
The next group starts December 1.
Join us.
Questions?
FAQs
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Every person's reaction to divorce is different based on their individual circumstances (how much they and their spouse agree on the divorce, the reasons for the marriage ending, the experience of being married in the first place, etc.).
Typically, women who participate in this group feel a mix of anger, betrayal, anxiety, relief, shame, guilt, confusion, and a loss of identity.
The emotions following divorce are often nuanced and complex, and there is no right or wrong way to feel. -
First and foremost, one of the most important things is to get adequate emotional support. This could be in the form of an online women's divorce group, or it could be from friends, family, faith or cultural communities, etc. Having a support network you can rely on in your time of emotional upheaval is a game-changer.
Another way of coping during divorce is to maintain a semblance of routine and structure. This includes not making huge life decisions (about your career or where to move) during your divorce, as those decisions may be colored by the strong emotions brought on by your marriage ending. Take 6 months to reflect on and to observe the changes in yourself and your life post-divorce before making any big decisions. -
If this is your situation, I am happy to write you a medical leave note so that you can miss work to attend the group. Under most circumstances, your employer is required by law to honor this. You will be involved in the note-writing process. I will write your medical leave note with your privacy in mind.
Think of this as the first step to prioritizing your self-care and honoring your needs.
Please contact me for more information about this.
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This is understandable, and a very common concern about joining a group. Sharing is voluntary, and participants of this divorce support group won’t be pressured at any point. The rate at which different people become comfortable with disclosure varies. You won’t be expected to share until you are ready.
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Besides being significantly less expensive than individual sessions, here are some advantages of group therapy:
There is so much validation and hope in hearing a group of people in the same boat as you confirm that your experience is normal and you’re not a crazy person.
It is helpful to have a sense of camaraderie in a time characterized by loneliness.
You’ll receive a range of different perspectives and responses to whatever you bring to the table.
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The next round of this women's divorce group will begin in October of 2024 and we will go for 8 weeks. Please contact me to reserve your spot, as spaces are extremely limited.
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Getting started is easy. Contact me today to reserve your spot in the next group cohort.
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